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Minyan Schedule at Chabad of NCI

Sundays 8:15AM
Monday - Friday 7:00AM
Shabbat Day 10:00AM

 

B'H  Chabad of North County Inland has now become the only Shul in our area that has Minyanim everyday.  I want to thank everyone for their commitment to making the Minyanim at Chabad of NCI so strong. A Minyan is the Backbone of a Shul and is the Collective Soul of the Community.  

A Message from the Rabbi

 

An interesting turn of phrase at the end of this week’s Torah portion offers us a fascinating insight into the relationship between Jewish leaders and their followers. When the Jewish people’s 40-year journey through the desert is coming to a conclusion, Moses sends messengers to the Amorite king, Sichon, requesting permission to pass though his land on their way to the Promised Land.

But instead of saying that Moses sent the messengers, the Torah states that “Israel sent messengers,” implying that it was a communal mission. The commentators note that since it was Moses who actually sent them on their mission, it would have been more appropriate to attribute the mission to him rather than to all of Israel.

This leads Rashi, the foremost Torah commentator, to proclaim: “Moses is Israel, and Israel is Moses, to teach you that the leader of the generation is equal to the entire generation, because the leader is everything.”

True leaders know that they represent nothing but the people they lead, and in turn, the followers recognize this devotion in their leader and do everything in their might to follow his lead.

In our generation, the Lubavitcher Rebbe, whose 30th yahrtzeit we observed this week, embodied this very notion of being a devoted leader to his flock. The Rebbe stood for Jewish unity, Jewish pride, and most importantly – the demand for every Jew’s commitment to Jewish life. Like Moses before him, the Rebbe devoted his entire life to the betterment of the entire Jewish nation.

May we draw inspiration from the life of the Rebbe, the Moses of our times, recognizing that our efforts to bring others closer to G‑d and His Torah can truly make a lasting impact on our communities and beyond.

Shabbat shalom,

Rabbi Yehuda

 

 

Rabbi Moss Question of the Week

Question of the Week

I have finally met a guy I actually like. At my age this is a big deal. But there is a huge issue. He does not keep kosher and says he never will. He insists on bringing non-kosher food into my home, something I have never allowed before. Now I’m in a bind. Does G-d want me to stay single and kosher, or compromise and be happy?

Answer

Compromise is a necessary ingredient in every successful relationship. Two human beings sharing intimate space is a balancing act, and can only work if each makes room for the other. Learning to love means learning to loosen your grip and be flexible.

But you can’t put everything up for negotiation. You need to know when to compromise, and when to hold your ground. 

If a guy you love tells you he doesn’t like a particular dress you wear, because it reminds him of his third-grade teacher whom he hated, would you change dresses? Sure you would. And so you should. It’s only a dress, and if the negative association is so strong for him, be sensitive and put on something else.

But what if he says he doesn’t like your nose? Apparently that third-grade teacher had a similar dress sense to you, and also a similar-shaped nose. You've already changed your dress. Would you change your nose too? 

I hope not. Because your dress is what you wear, but your nose is you. You can change what you do to please someone else. But you can’t change who you are to please someone else. 

When it comes to matters of habit, there is wiggle room. If your hobbies clash with your partner, you can adjust them. If you’re a late-night person, you can learn to become an early riser. If you insist on playing your electronic bagpipe, that’s fine, just use headphones. If he’s a junk food addict, he can, over time, develop a taste for quinoa salad. These are superficial habits, so they are malleable. 

But when it comes to your identity, who you are, your core beliefs and values, there can be no compromise. If you give in there, you are giving up who you are. And giving up on who you are never ends well. You can change your clothes, but you can’t change your nose.

Your kosher kitchen is not a habit, it is an expression of identity. You are following the spiritual diet of your ancestors. Your every bite of food is a connection to your Jewishness. You are a part of that secret society that checks labels for hidden symbols next to the use-by date. This is who you are. You can’t just give it up for someone else. 

But let’s give this guy a chance. He may not realise how deep your convictions are. Stand your ground, and explain to him why you keep kosher. If he is the one for you, he will accept you for who you are. After all, his not keeping kosher is just a habit. When he sees that kosher is a part of who you are, who nose what will happen.

Good Shabbos,
Rabbi Moss

Parsha in a Nutshell

The name of the Parshah, "Chukat," means "Statute" and it is found in Numbers 19:2.

Moses is taught the laws of the red heifer, whose ashes purify a person who has been contaminated by contact with a dead body.

After forty years of journeying through the desert, the people of Israel arrive in the wilderness of Zin. Miriam dies, and the people thirst for waterG‑d tells Moses to speak to a rock and command it to give water. Moses gets angry at the rebellious Israelites and strikes the stoneWater issues forth, but Moses is told by G‑d that neither he nor Aaron will enter the Promised Land.

Aaron dies at Hor Hahar and is succeeded in the high priesthood by his son Elazar. Venomous snakes attack the Israelite camp after yet another eruption of discontent in which the people “speak against G‑d and Moses”; G‑d tells Moses to place a brass serpent upon a high pole, and all who will gaze heavenward will be healed. The people sing a song in honor of the miraculous well that provided them water in the desert.

Moses leads the people in battles against the Emorite kings Sichon and Og (who seek to prevent Israel’s passage through their territory) and conquers their lands, which lie east of the Jordan.

Haftorah Commentary

Haftorah Chukat Commentary
(Judges 11:1-33)

The period was known as that of the “Judges.” No king or united state had yet been
created in the Land of Israel. Unity on a nationwide scale was rare, and it usually
occurred in a time of trouble. The usual cause for such trouble was the relapse of
Jews towards the idolatrous ways of their neighbors; then, one of Israel’s enemies
would begin to be successful in their hateful endeavors. In this case it was the
nation of Ammon that harassed the Jews for years, mainly in the territories of the
Transjordanian tribes (Reuben, Gad and part of Manasseh). Realizing their
wrongdoings, the Jews returned to G-d and begged for salvation. This came in the
form of a man called Yiftach (Jephthah).

His story begins with his being banished from his father's estate by his half-
brothers. Although the verse is clear that this was because of the status of
Jephthah's mother, the commentaries differ as to what her status actually was.
Some say that she was a concubine to his father, Gilead, and his brothers from
Gilead’s wife did not consider him a rightful heir to their father. According to this
interpretation, his brothers had done this illegally, as the laws of inheritance dictate
that any son of a man has equal rights in his estate. Others, however, read the
verse in a more literal way to mean that Jephthah's mother was actually a
prostitute. Since there was no way of proving that Gilead was the true father,
Jephthah could not legally extract his share in the inheritance from his half-
brothers. 1

He ran away from his brothers and settled in the land of Tov. Empty people
gathered around him and would go out with him, like a gang. 
Not long afterwards, Amon went to war against Israel. The leaders of Gilead (the
name of a region, as well as Jephthah’s father) went to Jephthah, and asked him to
become their chief and lead Israel in battle against Amon. After some discussion, he
agreed on the condition that they appoint him leader first, which they did.
Now in his new position of power, Jephthah sent a message to the king of Ammon
demanding an explanation for the ongoing terror: “What is there between you and
me?” he asked. The response came back that the king of Ammon was attempting to
reclaim territory that the Israelites had taken from Ammon in the days of Moses,
about three hundred years earlier. 

Jephthah sent back a lengthy response in which he set the Ammonite king right on
some historical facts—these taken from the portion of Chukat. In order to enter the
Land of Israel via the Jordan River, the Jews had to cross through one of the lands
that were on the other side of it. The kings of Edom and Moab had refused them
entry. Circumventing both of the above countries, they then turned to Sichon, king
of the Amorites, to see if he would allow them to pass through. (Sichon had
previously fought with Moab and conquered a large part of their territory.) Not only
did Sichon not allow the Jews to pass, but he attacked them with a massive army.
Miraculously, the Jews won the war, and in turn took Sichon’s entire land—including
the areas that he had earlier taken from Moab. 
“If Hashem miraculously gave us the land of the powerful Amorites, then you are
not going to take it away from us,” said Jephthah. “For three centuries,” Jephthah
continued, “no king of Moab attempted to reclaim these lands—not even the
mighty and famous Moabite king Balak, who lived at that time. No one has done
you any harm, and you are just looking for an excuse to attack us.” 1
The king of Amon did not pay heed to Jephthah’s words. The spirit of G-d was upon
Jephthah, and he went to war against Amon. He had a massive victory, and Amon
was now under Israel’s rule. 

The Talmud tells us that “Jephthah in his generation is like Samuel in his
generation.” What does this mean? There seems to be no comparison between the
two. Samuel was a holy and righteous man; Jephthah was not. Samuel was learned
in Torah; Jephthah was not. Rather, it tells us that the leaders we have are
appointed by G-d, and we are obligated to accord them with the same respect. Also,
it is a mitzvah to follow the laws set by the court of the time. And though Jephthah’s
court was not at the level of Samuel’s, we were still obligated to follow its rulings. 

What are some of the lessons from the haftarah?
First, G-d doesn’t always give us the holiest person as our leader; He gives us the
leader we need and (perhaps) deserve.
Second, anyone who wants to do G-d’s will can have the spirit of G-d with him, even a
person like Jephthah.


Third, although Jephthah was a boorish man, we see from his words and actions
that he believed in G-d. Perhaps our current leaders can learn from him how to
stand up against the enemies of Israel—with truth and without fear—knowing that
G-d is with them.

May we merit to have great and holy leaders, and may we have true peace and the
entirety of our land, with the greatest leader of all, Moshiach. The time has come. 

1. Chukat Haftarah Companion by Rabbi Mendel Dubov
2. On the Haftara: On Jewish Leaders by Rabbi Yitzi Hurwitz

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